Do We Have a Choice About Who We Love?

One Man’s Long and Winding Road to Marriage

North Haven, Connecticut – WEBWIRE – Monday, June 3, 2019

This book is about choice. It is about a man who made his own choice rather than feeling constrained to be one way (loving only males) or the other (loving only females).

“Be who you are.” They would tell him to date boys. David would have to decide, or choose, who to date. It would be his choice, not the LGBTQ community’s choice or the “straight” community’s choice.

This book is for some, not all, members of the LGBTQ community. All are welcome to read it, but it is written for some. It is for people who are sexually attracted to the same sex but would, if they could choose, be heterosexual. Can they choose? The author does not answer for other men. He does not answer for women. He answers for himself. He had homosexual (gay) urges as a teen in the 1960s but his goal was to fall in love with a woman. He eventually did. He tells how he did. Religion had nothing to do with it.

The author is not a therapist, so this book is not “therapy” or “conversion therapy.” It is not a clinical guide. It is one man telling his own true story. What worked for him may not work for someone else. Happily marrying a woman did not come easy to him. It was a “long and winding road,” he says, borrowing from a Beatles song. He never found many women attractive. He never found more than about 5% of all women attractive. His goal was to find enough women attractive so he would ultimately fall in love with one of them. At age 44, he found her. He is 66 today. They have been “happy together,” to borrow from a song by the Turtles, for 22 years.

This short (60 pages), lively book is not for LGBTQ people who are happy being LGBTQ. Happy LGBTQ people are welcome to read it, but it may waste their time. The author has no desire to change them. He wishes them the best. This book is for people who are attracted to the same sex—they may or may not identify as LGBTQ—but wish to fall in love with someone of the opposite sex. The author tells how he did it. He candidly admits he is a product of his time. He was a teen in the 1960s and 70s, not 2019. If he were a teen in 2019, he is not sure whether he’d date girls or boys. LGBTQ people would tell him, “Be who you are.” They would tell him to date boys. David would have to decide, or choose, who to date. It would be his choice, not the LGBTQ community’s choice or the “straight” community’s choice. This book is about choice. It is about a man who made his own choice rather than feeling constrained to be one way (loving only males) or the other (loving only females).

Orientation and Choice: One Man’s Sexual Journey
Written by David Robinson
Kindle | $3.99
Paperback | $7.99

Book copies are available at Amazon.

About the Author
David Robinson is a lawyer based in Connecticut.