3 Ways To Handle Your Friend Getting The Girl

(Springfield, MO)—-It’s not uncommon for two friends to be attracted to the same girl, but when one gets her and the other doesn’t, the conflict can tear the friendship apart. So, what can you do if a girl comes between you and your friend?

“You really have to make a decision between giving up the friendship and supporting your friend’s happiness,” says Ryan O’Reilly, author of “To Nourish and Consume,” a dramatic novel wherein the main character, Brian Faulk, flees his hometown after losing a girl to his best friend.

While Brian runs from the heartbreak of seeing his friend marry a girl they both desired in high school, Mr. O’Reilly recommends different ways of handling such a situation in real life, including:

1. Be honest. Feeling jilted or betrayed is normal. Competition for a girl has been a source of conflict for millennia and that’s not going to change. But if you let your feelings simmer instead of addressing them, you’re dooming the relationship.

2. Try to discuss the matter with your friend and find some middle ground that will allow the friendship to continue. It might not have a chance, but you should at least try.

3. Wait it out. If you’ve tried to set things right, have faith that in the end cooler heads will prevail. You might one day look back on it all as a trivial bump in the road.

Brian Falk’s road leads back to his hometown, where his best friend and the girl they shared are still married. It’s a tense situation made worse by Brian’s unresolved issues with his father and the family business, not to mention the feelings he still harbors for the woman of his high school dreams.

“Brian is in a sticky situation,” says Mr. O’Reilly. “It was fun writing about a time in this character’s life that is so delicate and potentially devastating"

Ryan O’Reilly is a freelance contributor to newspapers and periodicals across the country. He is also a member of the National Writers Association and the Writers League of Texas. His previous critically acclaimed novel, “Snapshot,” was published in 2007 and received rave reviews from Kirkus, the Midwest Book Review, fellow authors and his many devoted readers and fans.

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